“To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven”. (Ecclesiastes 3:1).
The primary reason behind marriage is companionship. Every other reason is built into this. It was God’s leading idea, it was God that saw and said it is not good that Adam be alone. In other words God wanted Adam to spend quality time with Eve- his companion and wife. God saw that he had time to do every other thing, invent things, name all animals etc but noticed he had no one or companion to relate and spend quality time with, hence He created the woman to be his soul mate, confidant and one he could spend quality time with. Friends, if God could meet this need for Adam then every spouse must do same to their loved ones.
Do not be busy for nothing, be careful not to let work, ministry or church activities rob you of spending quality time with your spouse even as the text above says there is time for everything. Plan and create quality time for attending purposeful seminars and church programmes, going to the cinema, beach, spend time to do the laundry, play games, study the bible and pray together as this initiates and increases intimacy and enthrals your spouse glued only to you despite whoremongers outside.
One pertinent trait that differentiated the foolish from the wise virgins was time. The foolish went in the search for oil instead of spending quality time with the bridegroom they were informed to be prepared for as they were aware He was coming for them. They were considered foolish because they left the needful in search for oil at their own peril. Do you really love your spouse? Create the right mood and time to spend quality time together, this did the wise virgins with their bridegroom. Even God loves dialogue as this is the reason for our devotion with Him.
Are you married and blessed with children, plan and make sure you spend quality time together at least once a week without other things interfering. As God’s leading Lady, as you give attention and time to your children ensure your husband is not pushed to the corner. When spending time with the children, try to involve him, when your children do funny things, call his attention to it and do things that will make you all laugh together as one big family of love and peace.
Friends, are you so polished, talented and busy with your secular job? Are you a clergy occupied with intense programmes on your schedule that you sincerely and hardly have and spend quality time with your spouse and family? You sure need to strike a balance. It’s not wise to spend all the time on these ventures at the expense of your spouse and family, remember your first fan and member is your spouse and children who you must first attend and minister to before others.
Folks, marriage is too delicate for you to allow other things interfere and steal quality time with your spouse and family. This is so because without a peaceful home and stable emotions you hardly can make anything good out of your marriage. In fact, if you are not spending quality time with your spouse despite any excuse of your busy schedules, it’s most likely your spouse will be spending it with someone else.
A proof of genuine love is the quality time you spend with your spouse, so make it an addiction and culture, make effort to appreciate your spouse as God’s special gift to you during this time. This should be a practice in your home and must begin with you as the home you don’t prepare for, will eventually send you packing some day. The time to make amend is now, start the plan today on how to spend quality time with your spouse children and family. Be wise by spending quality time more with your spouse than with your children for your spouse has been and will always be before your children.
Prayer Lines: Father, let my marital joy blossom and increase through quality time management with my family.